Me, Myself and I : Part III
I have two principal ways of discovering the areas where I fail to see myself. The first is acknowledging the qualities in others that irritates me. The second is acknowledging the comments that have made me defensive. To discover what irritates me, I merely review my latest encounters, tries to improve myself or atleast makes a conscious effort to overcome that irritation, the next time. But I have more difficulty recognizing when I am defensive. I can sometimes identify it by the following actions of mine:
# I answer quickly.
# I feel an urge to say more than I need to.
# I explain, try to persuade and feel impatient when interrupted.
# I feel frustrated even if I appears to succeed, as if the damage has already been done.
I am incapable of taking the other people's comments any way but seriously. Their comments never seem to be light or funny.
When I see I am doing something wrong, a part of me wants to keep on doing it the same way and even starts looking for reasons to justify the continuation. I live form one tentative conclusion to the next, thinking each one is final. The only thing I know for sure is that I am confused, which is not a characteristic of a leo person. But that's the way I am.
Just when I think I have learned the way to live, life changes and I am left the same as I began. The more things change, the more I am the same. It appears that my life is a constant irony of maturity and regression, but my sense of progress is based on the illusion that things out there are going to remain the same and that I have gained a little control of my life and people around me.
I am definitely not responsible for my feelings, but for what I do with them. If I feel angry, I don't have to ask what I want to do because on the level of anger, the decision is already in place to make someone feel guilty. And on the level of my core (of heart), if I feel love, the decision is already made to act without harming. Therefore, the question is not what to do , but where within me am I looking.
My problem is that I am analyzing life instead of living it.
(cont.)
# I answer quickly.
# I feel an urge to say more than I need to.
# I explain, try to persuade and feel impatient when interrupted.
# I feel frustrated even if I appears to succeed, as if the damage has already been done.
I am incapable of taking the other people's comments any way but seriously. Their comments never seem to be light or funny.
When I see I am doing something wrong, a part of me wants to keep on doing it the same way and even starts looking for reasons to justify the continuation. I live form one tentative conclusion to the next, thinking each one is final. The only thing I know for sure is that I am confused, which is not a characteristic of a leo person. But that's the way I am.
Just when I think I have learned the way to live, life changes and I am left the same as I began. The more things change, the more I am the same. It appears that my life is a constant irony of maturity and regression, but my sense of progress is based on the illusion that things out there are going to remain the same and that I have gained a little control of my life and people around me.
I am definitely not responsible for my feelings, but for what I do with them. If I feel angry, I don't have to ask what I want to do because on the level of anger, the decision is already in place to make someone feel guilty. And on the level of my core (of heart), if I feel love, the decision is already made to act without harming. Therefore, the question is not what to do , but where within me am I looking.
My problem is that I am analyzing life instead of living it.
(cont.)